Today, we’re talking about manifesting the life you want after divorce. I am obsessed with this topic, and it has been a large focus of my life for the last year.
What does manifest mean?
Abraham Hicks says, “Manifesting is the process of turning thoughts into things.”
Everything that we women experience in life, whether it’s a material possession, a job, or a relationship, starts with a thought – an idea that has a lot of desire wrapped around it.
When we acknowledge our thoughts, we create a nice runway to turn those thoughts into things. This is the process of refining manifestation.
You are in charge of your thoughts and turning them into things. Take full responsibility for what is currently manifested in your life after divorce, as it is a reflection of thoughts that you had at some point along the way. Now, I know that may be a bitter pill to swallow.
How to Manifest the Life You Want
Start by radically owning the concept: ‘What you think is what you create.’
If you want to manifest a different relationship, a job, a financial or health situation, you have to become on the same vibration of the thing that you want. On the emotional scale, every emotion has a vibrational frequency; they are just like musical notes on a scale.
What is Vibrational Energy?
Emotions emit energy at different frequencies. Positive emotions like love and joy have higher frequencies, while negative ones like anger and fear are associated with lower frequencies.
By maintaining positive emotions, you can increase your vibrational energy and attract more positive experiences and people into your life.
Everything is energy. We are all made up of energy. Vibration in emotion is directly related to how we manifest our thoughts into things.
When our thoughts are on a higher energy level, we are calling those positive things into our existence. We are turning positive thoughts into things. The key is to get clear about what you want.
How to Manifest Love
What is it that you want to manifest? What kind of thoughts would you need to have to turn your thoughts and your vibrations into love?
When you get clear on what you want to manifest, the life you want, the partner you want… You will manifest a love that is so powerful.
People always ask me, “How can I attract my soulmate?”
You will attract your soulmate no matter what. Your soulmate is coming. They’re not just partners. They are children, friends, and coworkers. We women have all kinds of soulmates in life, not just romantic ones.
Similarity Attraction Theory
You will attract a mate based on where you are vibrationally.
So if you are resentful and you are feeling shitty about yourself, you will attract soulmates who have this similar vibration. Soulmates are meant to help us really expand into the fullness of our souls, and sometimes, they are there to help us transform our perception.
Manifesting in love is about finding vibrations of love inside of us.
Attracting your soulmate is going to happen whether you like what you attract or not.
How to Manifest Money
Now, let’s talk about how you can attract money into your life after divorce. We women are often focused on what we don’t have rather than what we do. We are always scared about not having enough money. We ruminate on feeling stuck around that. We also avoid self-care that costs money, like paying for the therapy or a chiropractor appointment. You don’t want to pay for the things that are going to help your vibration increase because you’re afraid to spend the money.
This is how I’ve always managed money around health and well-being:
I understand that the more money I spend to help me heal, the more money will come back to me. I’m going higher on the vibrational scale, I’m going to feel better, and I will be manifesting positive thoughts into things.
By healing, I’m shedding baggage, toxins, and trauma. The more divorce trauma we women can put down and let go, the higher we float and the more magical the things that come to us.
Manifestation is being able to rest in the knowing that the universe has your back. Your higher power has always been there inside of you and is on your team.
So often, we get stuck in trying to control.
Manifesting is not a way of controlling an outcome. It’s a way of letting go of an outcome.
Trust that your Higher Power is with you, gets you, and is in the process of delivering all the things you’re praying for.
When it comes to money, say to yourself, “I am no longer going to focus on how much I have because how much I have has nothing to do with what is coming.”
Focus on getting happy in between. You set your desire, and then you let it go, and you trust that it’s coming.
Manifest What You Want, Rather What You Don’t Want
Now, let’s talk about what you should not say while manifesting. It’s important to stay in the affirmative. When you’re thinking, “I just had to stand in line for 30 minutes, and I did not want to do that, and it screwed up my whole day,” switch it to, “I just got to stand in line for 30 minutes, and I don’t know why. But I do understand that everything’s always working out for me.”
Incrementally shift your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want.
Can You Manifest Through Music?
People have asked me, “Can you manifest through music?” Music can help us to feel in so many ways, and when we women use that to our advantage, oh, yes, you can manifest through music.
If you want to do some work around manifestation, put on music that helps you to feel on fire and powerful.
Music that brings you joy and makes you feel safe.
How to Raise Your Vibration
What happens when you raise your vibration? Well, you become happy. For example, in my life, I’ve always been willing to do a lot in the name of beauty. Since I’ve become ridiculously happy last year, I haven’t gotten Botox. My forehead is much less wrinkled, and it’s not perfect, but I know that I’m training my muscles to be happy, which means not scowling. And that’s a game changer when manifesting the life you want.
Do you know how much money I’ve saved on Botox in the last six months from raising my vibration? It’s epic. So I have spent less money and my wrinkles are better.
We women can do so many powerful things by raising our vibration and manifesting our thoughts into happiness.
If I told you that all of your positive manifestations are on the other side of you learning how to manage your thoughts in your life after divorce, would you feel more motivated to do so?
There are so many tools. It’s just a matter of focusing on them and owning the fact that you have all the power to do the things. You are ridiculously powerful.
Are you willing to turn your thoughts into things, using the power of managing your mind and raising your emotional vibration to manifest the life you want?
Choose to build yourself a beautiful future. I love you so much.
Divorce recovery coach Dawn Wiggins
...helps people crack open. Challenging the status quo, she integrates multiple modalities from EMDR to EFT tapping, journaling, homeopathy, and movement, embracing remedies that heal both the mind and body. Divorce recovery coach Dawn Wiggins is on a mission to deliver life-changing therapy in an accessible, scalable, affordable way and make waves in the world of mental health with the same enlightenment that happens in her office. Part science, part essential oils, pure magic.